taha whānau: family wellbeing
your whānau is part of you, your health and your happiness
Happiness science across cultures shows that having strong, healthy connections with other people is one of the best ways to improve your wellbeing.
think about reconnecting
Like everything else in life, families are complicated and difficult – when stuff goes wrong, it can sometimes feel impossible to fix.
No one understands your life or your whānau better than you. If you’re sure that walking away is the right thing to do, it probably is.
If you want to rebuild your relationship with your family, we may be able to help. Your local Youth Service provider can refer you for Family Reconciliation Counselling (FRC). At FRC, a counsellor will support you and your family to talk about your issues and try to find a solution that means you can move home. If that all seems a bit much, don’t worry! Your youth coach can help you work out small steps to reconnect in a way that works for you.
build healthy relationships
Whether it’s with your mum, your best friend or your partner, a close relationship should make you feel good about yourself. It should bring out your best qualities and the other person’s.
It’s normal for relationships to have ups and downs- but if the time you spend with your whānau isn’t making you happy, ask yourself whether something needs to change.
Signs that a relationship isn’t working might include:
- You don’t feel like you can be yourself around the other person, or you don’t feel good about yourself after you spend time with them.
- When you’re together, you often do unhealthy things, like drinking too much, taking drugs or arguing.
- One or both of you often says or does things to hurt or upset the other.
If you’re not sure whether a relationship is healthy, there are plenty of places you can get support and advice.
If you’re enrolled in Youth Service, you can talk to your youth coach about how you’re feeling.
If you are not in Youth Service, or if you would feel more comfortable talking to someone you don't know at the moment, you can find some contacts on our need help now page.
need help now?
Te Whare Tapa Whā recognises something that’s true of all people regardless of our background or culture: it makes us feel good to have our qualities recognised and be part of something bigger than ourselves.
The places you live, work and go to school are part of who you are. Knowing how you belong in them is important for your self-esteem and your happiness. There are some easy ways to get involved.
As a volunteer, you’ll use your unique qualities and skills to do something good and at same time, meet people in your community who care about the things you do.
The Volunteering New Zealand website is a good place to get started finding opportunities to volunteer in your local area.
Join a group, do a course
Cooking, mountain biking, parenting – if someone’s doing it, you can bet there’s a club for it. Find what’s going on near you by searching social media or looking for adverts in your local shops and newspapers.